35 Things I Have Learned in Recovery

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images1) You are not selfish for taking care of yourself.

2) You are not lazy, you are ill.

3) You are not arrogant for loving yourself.

4) It is okay to feel sad, but it is not okay to let the sadness win.

5) Your worth is not defined by someone loving or not loving you.

6) Sometimes not giving into your addictions will make you feel worse in that moment than if you had given in, but honestly, the worst days in recovery are better than the best days in relapse.

7) A healthy person does not wish to be sicker. There is no such thing as “not sick enough.”

8) It is okay to be alone every once in a while.

9) You do not need to be perfect, just do the best you can.

10) A bad day does not equal a bad life.

11) Do not put all of your happiness into one person. Ultimately, you have to be your own hero.

12) Numbing the pain for a while will only make it worse when you finally feel it.

13) Eating does not mean you are weak.

14) Not eating does not mean you are strong.

15) The words ‘f*ck it’ do come in handy once in a while.

16) Your feelings are valid simply because you are feeling them. You do not need to justify yourself.

17) Never feel guilty for being sad because “someone has it worse than you.”

18) People are not perfect. They will offend you, hurt you and let you down from time to time, but this can be from lack of understanding; it does not mean that they do not love you.

19) You are not a burden.

20) You have to learn to love yourself before you can fully love someone else.

21) Do not let your illness define or limit you.

22) Do not be afraid to walk away from toxic relationships/friendships.

23) Do the things you love. Every. Single. Day.

24) It is okay to be different.

25) Be patient, you are a work in progress.

26) Good things can, do, and will happen to you.

27) Recovery is not about being strictly “happy”, it is about learning to become whole.

28) You cannot change the past, but you can learn from it. So stop analyzing it and wondering about what thinking “could have, should have, or would have” been.  Learn to let go.

29) Letting go is not a one-time thing. It is something you do every day, over and over again.

30) The bad things people say about you are actually reflections of what they think of themselves, not you.

31) Everything seems worse when it is 3am.

32) You are not worthless, you are priceless.

33) You are allowed to scream and you are allowed to cry, but do not give up.

34) Ultimately it’s only your opinion of yourself that matters. Do what makes YOU happy.

35) Just hang in there because u hella rad.